Abuse

Domestic abuse. That’s something I really just don’t understand. Why a woman will stay with a man, even after he’s beat her countless times. Screwed her up emotionally, physically, and psychologically. It doesn’t matter if he was drunk, or not drunk, its still wrong for a man to BEAT an innocent woman. NOTHING denotes a beating, and further more, who are you to say they deserved it?

Now I am well aware that some religions and beliefs say that the man rules over all, and all is owned by him. Since when does that mean one human can own another? Much like slavery, is it not?

Maybe I’ve got it all wrong. Maybe men DO own women, in some sense. But in many other ways, we as women own men. WE have the power, with is something most men fail to see. Then again, some women will give anything or do anything for men. That’s another thing I fail to understand. Why would you give up your hopes, your dreams, and your future for a MAN? They really aren’t worth it. There are BILLIONS of them. Not just one you meet when your young. And just because they say things, doesn’t mean they mean them.

But who am I to say what’s right for other women? All I know is what’s right for me. I myself have never been in an abusive relationship, but I have observed them. Going off of what I’ve observed, the women in the relationship supposedly “love” their spouse too much to leave them. Which, in my perspective, is the most idiotic thing I’ve ever heard in my entire life. See, most guys who are abusive now, have been abusive in the past. Whether to a sibling, a pet, or been abused themselves. So their mindset (and remember, I do not hold a Ph. D in psychology, this is just my own personal thoughts), leans to think “Well, I’ve done it once and gotten away with it, why couldn’t I do it again?” This leads to a long line of abusive relationships, until someone decides to do something about it.

That someone, at least with the past people in my life, is me. See, people don’t realize that I’m not one of those spineless, submissive girls. I’m very dominate. And when those abusive people come after me, or someone I love, I fight back. Hard. Whether it be with words, actions, or fists, I wont stop. Sure, they can throw the first punch, but they had better make it count. Because until I’m dead, I wont give up. I wont roll over, and I will not say uncle.

So here’s to all of the women, men, children, and teenagers that are in abusive relationships with their parents, legal guardians, boyfriends, or girlfriends. You aren’t alone. And you can fight back. Because when you do, you’ll be free.